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The Other 3: Sleep, Stress Relief, & Movement

Six Simple Steps to Stop Restricting and Start Thriving

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Are you ready to ditch the binge and restrict cycle?

Let’s bust some myths, and drop some truth bombs about what really works to ditch that torturous diet cycle (that doesn’t work anyway!). Instead, live a life of sustainable habits that actually help you thrive.

I get it. I’ve been there. I used to make ALL of the classic mistakes:

  • Slash calories super low to lose weight, then wonder why I had such intense cravings
  • Worry about how many calories my workout had burned
  • Laser focus on diet and exercise, and TOTALLY miss how my terrible sleep habits and poorly mananged stress was sabotaging me every step of the way

And I now know that I was making everything more complicated than it needed to be. I honestly didn’t know just how straightforward the solution could be.

  • No, you don’t need to atone for what you think you did “wrong” or “bad” over the weekend regarding food. Depriving and restricting yourself today in the form of undereating or overexercising, or completely restricting entire food groups will just perpetuate the binge and restrict cycle!
  • Getting yourself to a place where you feel good, you feel energized, and in your optimal health zone DOESN’T require pain and suffering.
  • It doesn’t require a hyper-detailed meal plan or elaborate fitness routine. (Unless you’re an elite performance athlete. In that case you do you!).

This week, challenge yourself to simply do your best to meet your body (and mind’s!) needs, in ways that fit your bandwidth right now.

And it’s not all about food and fitness! (Repeat that to self as needed.)

It’s all about working with your biology instead of against it.

1. Prioritize sleep. For real. #sleepisthenewcaffeine

2. Start your day with a few minutes of natural light before you reach for a screen. Minimize screen use at night (a hard truth, I know ). Right there, you’re book-ending your day in a way that actually supports your biology, helping every cell in your body feel and function its best. This helps you feel more energized, mentally sharper, and makes hitting your health and body composition goals happen more easily! Natural light is a critical signal to our biology, providing the necessary cues to every cell in our body to foster optimal function. Want to know more about this fascinating circadian rhythm stuff? Check out this article.

3. Build your plate with real, whole or minimally refined foods, and include protein, slow-acting carbs (a.k.a. unprocessed or mininally processed), veggies & fruits, and some fat at each meal. But don’t get all rigid about it either. Save the fine tuning for later (or maybe never?). Check out my recipes and meal prep tips for inspiration. Not sure what a slow carb is? Check out this explanation, and why it’s important to priortize slow carbs over fast-acting carbs.

4. At mealtime, let yourself eat the amount your body truly needs to help you make it through to the next meal. If you really need a snack to tide you over before the next meal, no big deal. Just be honest and check in with yourself when you feel like having a snack. Ask yourself whether it’s truly hunger (typically a hollow sort of feeling in your stomach), or if it’s something else you need that isn’t food. Maybe you simply didn’t eat enough food at that last meal, and it truly is hunger you’re experiencing. Or maybe you’re bored, anxious, or stressed and your habit has been to reach for food to ease those feelings. (Hey, that’s completely normal! Welcome to the club.)

If you’ve been out of tune with your hunger and satiety cues for a long time (dieting will do that), be patient. It takes time to “hear” those signals again, reliably. It will probably be messy at first. Persevere, and maintain an overall focus on nourishing your needs in mind, body, and spirit. In doing so, you will help restablish your connection to those cues. And this is how you will finally eliminate your need for external cues like calorie counting to best determine how much you need at a given meal. Accept that this skill is a work in progress, always.

5. Get some movement into your day, in whatever way it will fit. If you can break up long stretches of sedentary time, even better. Create opportunities to maintain your strength and build some muscle mass. It’s life-saving. Literally. Research is showing that muscle mass is the new vital sign! You don’t need to work yourself to the point of utter exhaustion to see benefits (in fact, killin’ it to the extreme day-in and day-out is counterproductive to seeing results).

6. Connect with your people! Do what you can to build in time to connect with the people in your life that lift you up, get you laughing, and have your back. I know, kind of surprising that maintaining strong social connections helps you thrive not only mentally, but physically, too. And you don’t need to be an extrovert with a hundred “close” friends to reap the benefits. Simply having a minimal amount of strong social ties can boost your odds of survival by 50%! Lack of social connection can have the opposite effect on your health, and can be the equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes a day or being an alcoholic. So, yeah – nuture those connections with the people in your life who nourish you. Everything is connected!

And no pressure to dial into everything right from the start.

Instead, start where you are, use what you have, do what you can. Grow from there.

Like me, you might just discover that it is a lot simpler than you thought to break that binge and restrict cycle. You got this.

You in? Drop a comment . . . what are you doing this week to work with your biology instead of against it?

If you want some support to build your own road map to these sustainable, lifelong healthy habits, hit up my contact form on here. I would be honored to coach you through the process of ditching the diet and learning to thrive in a way that works for you and your life.

Peace,

Jen

Your cravings are simply clues: How to work with them, not against them

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Oh, I am so done with the shame game when it comes to my health, my weight, my eating habits. Who’s with me?! Along my journey, I made a powerful shift from LABELING (“I have no willpower”, “I’m an emotional eater”, “I’m simply addicted to cookies”) to LEARNING (“Hmmm, why was I craving #allthejunk today?”, “Why is my appetite different this week than last?”). I went from despising myself for eating the entire party-size bag of Harvest Cheddar Sun Chips to instead, finally figuring out WTF my body needed to feel satiated and energized. 

I realized that cravings aren’t something to beat myself up over. They are simply the body and brain’s way of shouting at us when we’re not giving ourselves what we need. 

Unfortunately, our bodies can’t speak to us more directly:

“Hey Girl, you don’t need that fifth cookie, that fourteenth Netflix episode. Stop it with the 300-calorie Lean Cuisines. Balance your plate with protein, veggies, carbs, and fat, and give yourself some legit, unscheduled downtime to recharge.” 

Nope, the cravings don’t come through with that kind of clarity and encouragement.

Instead, cravings are the cranky equivalent of a screaming toddler out to dinner well past bedtime. Impossible to tune out, and will. not. back. down. until needs are met. 

When cravings strike, it’s NOT time to give yourself an emotional beatdown. 

Put down the boxing gloves. 

Instead, play detective.

Grab your magnifying glass and your thinking cap and nonjudgmentally examine and observe what’s going on.

  • Objectivity instead of judgment
  • Curiosity instead of shame
  • Compassion instead of criticism
  • Solutions instead of “screw it”


Cravings aren’t inherently good or bad. They simply are.

Cravings are our biology’s “code red” system, alerting us of risk. All of those urges are built-in protective mechanisms to save us from famine, undernourishment, physical danger, and all sorts of risks out there in the world. Which is actually a good thing. Your body is wired to help you survive. 

Reframe, and try to see your cravings for the extraordinarily helpful (though crabby) tool they are. Only then can you begin to learn from your body and what it’s telling you, instead of falling into a shame spiral. Resist the urge to simply “fight” your cravings, because in doing so, you are basically fighting against your biology (which is the product of millenia of human evolution). I think you know who’s going to win that one. 

Sometimes cravings guide us to obviously helpful things, like when you crave squash, pumpkin, and sweet potatoes because your body just knows you need some more carbs and beta-carotene.

Sometimes cravings steer us to junky, highly refined foods like donuts, muffins, corndogs, and whatever-other-junk-you-can-think-of.

There are plenty of causes of cravings:

Maybe you’ve been underfueling for too long. (Oh, yeah, you bet I’m bolding this one. So many of us aim to undereat at mealtime and it is possibly the number one driver of cravings. A 300-calorie “meal” isn’t your solution. It’s part of your problem.)

Maybe you’re sleep deprived.

Maybe you’re dealing with an extraordinary amount of unmanaged stress. 

Maybe you’ve been eating more highly processed foods than real foods, leaving you nutrient-depleted.

These are all situations in which your body is going to compel you to seek out very quick-acting, energy-dense food sources. Your body is demanding energy, stat, and it’s going to crank up your cravings to get you to seek out those foods. And highly refined foods like donuts and Cheez-Its provide just that. They are easy for our bodies to digest, so they give us a quick, intense hit of energy. Feels great for a moment, but repeating that day in and day out leaves us feeling pretty crappy.

A better solution to prevent that kind of craving is to preemptively meet your biological needs before the “must-eat-all-the-Swedish-Fish” cravings kick in.

But first, your biology.

So, does this “listen to cravings” thing mean “Oh, my body just wants donuts all the time, so that’s clearly my biology speaking. Time for a Krispy Kreme or Dunky’s run!”. Uhm, no. 

Yes, it’s true, our bodies are rather hard-wired to seek out that stuff, especially when we are shortchanging ourselves on our biological needs.

But you’ve probably learned that you can’t willpower your way out of wanting donuts every day. 

Of course, it’s totally normal to desire and enjoy a donut now and then. That’s part of life, and nothing to freak out over. But if you’re seeking them out every single day 24-7/365 and feeling like your craving is totally controlling you, then maybe you’ve got some unmet biological needs.

Fortunately, real, whole or minimally refined foods, in a balance of protein, fat, and slow-acting carbs are very effective at meeting our biological needs. 

Here are just a few of their superpowers:

Balance hunger and satiety hormones (ghrelin and leptin), leaving you you feeling full and satisfied

Boost energy

Reduce brain fog

Boost fat loss, enhance muscle building

Balance blood sugar (no more “hangry” crashes)

Reduce inflammation (and along, with that, can minimize aches and pains)

Improved health markers (lipid profile, blood glucose levels, blood pressure, etc.)

Help you better meet your overall nutrient needs

And you know what else our bodies respond VERY well to? 

Sleep

Movement 

Strength Training (at a just-right dose FOR YOU)

Self Care

Stress Relief

Connection

When we meet our true needs with our food choices and lifestyle habits, our biology is IN THE ZONE.

We have more energy.

We have more patience. (I find I yell at my kids 50% less when I meet my biological needs!)

We have more strength and stamina, less aches and pains (which makes everything else feel easier).

We feel pretty darn vibrant (due to each cell in your body finally having what it needs to do-its-thang, and do it well!).

We can think more clearly.

We can build muscle more easily.

We can burn stored fat as needed, instead of riding a spike-and-crash wave of hunger.

Maybe you’re thinking, “But, Jen, I am SUCH an emotional eater! I just know it’s my feelings driving the bus here”.
Until you are in the ballpark of meeting your biological needs consistently, avoid labeling yourself an “emotional eater”. 

Is it possible that emotions might be driving some of your eating behaviors? 

Yes, of course that’s possible. And some degree of emotional eating will probably always exist in your life and that’s totally normal. But you can’t totally bypass your biological needs and go straight to uncovering and examining your emotional ball of wax. 

First, you need to minimize the white noise of plain-old biological cravings. Only then do you have a much clearer picture of any underlying emotional eating behaviors. 

Here’s the first question to ask yourself:

AM I MEETING MY BIOLOGICAL NEEDS??

So many of us are convinced that most of our cravings are “emotional eating” and lack of willpower. That was me, too. I used to think I just sucked in the willpower department, and that I would always be in a constant wrestling match for control over my eating habits.

I was convinced that I would never be able to keep Oreos in the house without feeling the NEED to eat an entire sleeve in one sitting. 

In high school, I felt guilty when I would come home from soccer practice and feel the need to eat at least half of an entire box of Cheez-Its. 

When I was a sleep-deprived mama just trying to keep up with my toddler and infant, I was hungry for snacks every single hour.

And I used to label ALL of that as stress eating or emotional eating. I did not know then what I know now. Instead of LABELING, I could have been LEARNING:

I’ve learned that my insatiable appetite for Oreos was the result of not meeting my body’s needs through my overall diet. I was eating more refined foods than my body (specifically my blood sugar response!) can handle, and I wasn’t eating enough protein for my body’s needs. These nutrient inadequacies led me to crave lots of fast-acting energy dense junk foods like Oreos. 

I now know that I was often underfueled in my teen years, especially during my highly active sports seasons. I didn’t know then that my monster craving for all-the-Cheez-Its wasn’t a moral failing. It was simply my body’s way of desperately doing what it needed to compel me to give myself more food, more fuel as quickly as possible. 

I’ve learned that my snacking-on-the-hour habits while parenting a two-year-old and an infant wasn’t solely about stress. Yes, pure old stress was definitely a driver of my snacking habit back then (terrible twos PLUS a colicky baby, ‘nuff said). But I now know that the utter lack of sleep for months on end was also playing a huge role. As you can imagine, the chronic sleep deprivation dialed down my satiety hormones and dialed up my hunger hormones, leaving me feeling always hungry. Again, a great example of how our body is wired for survival. My body perceived lots of wakefulness and, hence, a greater need for constant energy. Right on cue, my hormones responded in a way that would encourage me to keep the fuel coming in, 24/7. Great for survival, but not the most helpful thing when you’re living in a world that’s telling you it’s time to “get your body back” (whatever that means, but that’s a NOVEL for another day, ha!).

In reality, a good chunk of what we label “emotional eating” is often driven by under-nourishment:

  • Not eating enough to fuel our body and brain’s needs day in and day out (cue the weekend binge, right??)
  • Depriving ourselves of entire macronutrients, entire food groups convinced they are the only obstacle getting in the way of fat loss (No, carbs and fat are not Satan.)
  • Shortchanging ourselves of 7-9 hours of sleep nightly
  • Not giving our body the daily dose of movement it needs to thrive. Movement has so many benefits, including regulating your blood sugar response after a meal. When your blood sugar response is less roller coaster and more even keel, you avoid those spikes and crashes that trigger cravings. Plus, a simple walk is also a great form of stress relief. Managing your stress through habits like walking (or meditation, focused breathing, knitting – whatever relaxes you) reduces your likelihood of reaching for food as a form of stress relief.
  • Going for too long without time to relax and recharge (Whatever that might mean for you – alone time with a good book? A walk? Time with friends who “get you”? 30 minutes without “Mom, Mom, Mom” interruptions? ) 

Figuring out what your body needs is a process, and it’s not going to happen overnight. There is no quick fix, just persistence and patience in figuring out what you truly need to thrive. 

Fortunately, the big rocks I’ve mentioned of real food, sleep, movement, stress relief, and self care are a very helpful starting point. If you need inspiration on getting started with those big rocks, poke around my blog for meal ideas, recipes, behavior change strategies, and more. If you’re looking for more support, shoot me a DM, send me an email, contact me however you’d like. Let’s chat about how we can work together so you can stop labeling, start learning, and start living a more energized, vibrant life.

Your Brain, Not Just Your Body Needs Movement

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Your body AND your brain need movement to remain vibrant, healthy, and functioning at peak capability. And that is what we all want, right, no matter our age? I think we’re all already sold on the fact that our bodies benefit hugely from an active lifestyle that includes movement. We already get it that sedentary lifestyle = bad, bad, bad for our physical health. What’s also true is that less sedentary time, combined with more time simply moving = better learning and memory capabilities. And, here’s the biggie – there’s emerging evidence that being a mover versus a habitual sitter recudes your risk of developing neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimers and Parkinsons disease. Hard to ignore that one, right?

The good news is, you don’t have to go nuts at the gym six days a week to benefit your brain health. In fact, non-exercise movment (simply walking, going up and down the stairs versus escalator; gardening, housecleaning, etc.) plays a significant role in preserving brain health. The name of the game is to interrupt your sitting time, even if it’s just standing up for one minute every twenty minutes that you’re sitting. While a big, sweaty, intense workout at the gym is great for a lot of reasons, if you’re sitting for the remainder of the day, your workout isn’t going to cancel out completely the risks associated with all of that sedentary time.

So, no need to overthink it. Just stand up when you think of it, take the stairs instead of the elevator when you can, park at the back of the lot and not in the front row, etc. Keep your joints and muscles mobile by sitting on the floor versus a chair once in a while. Get down there into a deep squat when you need to tie your shoes. If it’s only a couple of bags, carry your groceries out of the store instead of in the cart. All of these little, seemingly effortless actions add up to level of mobility and cognitive health that serves your life rather than restricts it.

That’s what I love about all of this real food/movement/sleep/stress relief stuff. They are the tools to #poweryourlife!

Want to learn more about the critical importance of movement and brain health? Check out https://fitness.mercola.com/sites/fitness/archive/2016/02/26/sedentary-lifestyle-brain-shrinkage.aspx.

What’s Your Why?

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What’s your big why? I used to think mine was mostly to fit back into those skinny jeans again, but as the NSVs (non-scale victories) started trickling in, I had a big “aha”. My big why was now about *so* much more, like:

  • having a ton more energy to get through my day, no matter what curve balls are thrown my way
    the ability to move my body with more ease, and keep up with my kids
  • a peaceful, pleasurable relationship with food, with no more stressing about what I was going to eat & when, and the end of cravings
  • improved readings on key health markers like cholesterol levels and blood glucose readings – reducing my risk of chronic disease and limiting the need for multiple medications later in life
  • a sharper, clearer mind, free of the brain fog I would get from eating overly refined foods; reduced anxiety

Along the way, I really latched onto these bigger-picture whys, and they definitely made it a lot easier to stick with the day-to-day habits that helped me get leaner, stronger, and more healthy.

And, as a bonus, focusing on the long term, bigger picture health goals, ultimately helped me fit into those pants again.

Now, I consider eating well, moving my body, making time for rest & recovery, and stress relief to be not just strategies for fat loss or maintaining weight. Rather, they are the tools I use to power my life!

What’s your big why? How do you power your life?

A little bit of walking is a big deal for your health

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Though it’s getting dark so early now, I’m still trying to squeeze in a short evening walk after dinner whenever possible. I can’t always make it happen, but I do my best because that brief 15 minutes offers so many benefits:
➡ It’s totally relaxing, and a great way to destress after a busy day.
➡ It gives me some much-needed outdoor time.
➡ Going for a walk after a meal has a significant impact on the body’s ability to regulate blood sugar levels, not just immediately after the meal, but for the following twenty four hours. A post-meal walk also stimulates metabolism. So, it’s an enjoyable, fifteen minute activity that reduces my risk for diabetes and helps with weight control. Uhm, no brainer, right?
➡ The evening’s fading light adds another benefit – it helps keep circadian rhythms in check. When your body’s clock is functioning properly, it not only helps you sleep better, it also positively impacts many of the body’s systems involving hunger, mental alertness, mood, stress, heart function, and immunity.


Even as winter approaches, I do my best to stick with this habit. If I get wimpy about the cold, I suck it up, bundle up, and remind myself of the hardy Scandinavian mindset about cold weather: “There’s no such thing as bad weather, only unsuitable clothing.”
How do you motivate to keep moving, espeically during the darker, cooler months?

Want to learn more about the health benefits of this post-meal stroll? Read more here.